First of all, congratulations, because if you're curious about your second Saturn Returning you've made it to your late 50's, the bad news is it's time for your second Saturn Return. It takes the planet Saturn 29.5 years to orbit the Sun and return to the same spot as it was the day you were born. The "return" lasts approximately 2 years, starting around age 58, but it's effect can last for the rest of your life.
It's all in how you handle it.
This is a simple version to a complex astrological event. Why am I writing about it?
I'm right in the thick of mine.
My return will be leaving soon and moving on in a few months (Dec 2017) yay, so let me tell you just how frightening and enlightening the last couple of years have been.
Put simply, it's a time when we can soar or we can crumble. My story is the latter. It's considered a metaphorical "rebirth" because of the passages that happen. Like what? We're on the threshold of retirement, an empty nest, the loss of loved ones, our bodies change and so can our values or what's important to us. We look around and things aren't the way we thought they'd be, no, not even slightly the way it was supposed to turn out. For better or worse, we begin a new era.
Saturn taps us on the shoulder and holds up a mirror. If we refuse to look at ourselves in the mirror it's holding, well, it will throw us under the proverbial bus and likely into the Abyss. Out of the Abyss, we can either make lemonade out of lemons or we can take the other fork in the road and become rigid, scared, judgmental and alone.
What can we do when this event takes place? Here are tips I recommend.
1. First be aware of it. If you are 58-61 you are in it. Be open and willing to learn.
2. Get rid of everything that has been weighing you down. Literally. Have garage sales, donate to charity or homeless shelters, find out if any schools could use your things in their artistic programs, plays, etc. Just get rid of it.
3. Look back at your life and the passages you've been through. Start a journal by writing down your most difficult experiences. At the end of each journal entry always add this tag line: "What would I tell my younger self?" What wisdom do you have now that would benefit your younger self? Write it down in the journal. Why? Because that's what Saturn wants. It wants to know what you have learned.
Treat your younger self with kindness or like you would treat your own child or a cherish friend. Leave judgement out of things. We all make mistakes. Don't beat-up on your younger self.
4. Revisit how you thought life was going to turn out. Chances are your life turned out differently than you expected. Embrace it. Don't get stuck in the past. This is where Saturn may seem cruel. If we don't let go of the past and we cling to it because we think it (the past) might come back, we invite Saturn to inflict restriction, loss, lack, which will manifest into rigidity, becoming judgmental and isolation. Have you ever seen a cranky older person set in their ways and thought "that's not how I want to end up?" Well then don't.
5. Accept and Embrace the life you have, warts and all. Look in the mirror that Saturn holds up and appreciate every scar, wrinkle and war wound you see. Why? Because (hopefully) you will see them as war wounds and you are a warrior in this thing called Life.
What if you aren't ready to accept and embrace? Please find a good therapist that can help you with the transitions and get unstuck (which I did). And at the very least, learn mindfulness, how to meditate, or learn calming techniques (my fave is calm.com).
As tough as Saturn can be, it really wants us to grow, kind of like the parent that says "do it, because I said so". Best of all, now that I'm at the end of this transition, I think of dear old Saturn as a portal to finding my highest, best, true self.