Do you ever look in the mirror and hear a voice criticize everything from your skin, hair, wrinkles, weight, etc. It's like the voice is turning on the very thing that is keeping it alive. Does it think that if it destroys it's body it might get a new one? It reminds me of the disease cancer. Cancer slowly kills the body, but then once it does, it dies too. How can we be so destructive?
Why does our brain allow the voice to torment us? If the voice hates our body and allows it to "beat us up" long enough both will die. End of story. Or is it...
I'm suggesting that we create a new dialogue by asking our brain to speak to our body with kindness. Instead of saying "you're so fat", how about "hey body, if we want to grow old together and live a long life, let's eat the kind of foods that will get us there. Then we can go for a long walk and breathe in fresh air and shed a few pounds so we will feel better and be healthier."
Instead of seeing wrinkles and wishing we had plastic surgery or botox, how about saying "those wrinkles are the result of a lot of laughs, laughing feels good, lets laugh more!"
The dialogue goes from negative self loathing to positive encouragement. And guess who wins? You do. And guess who the referee is? Your highest best self.